Before I said I’m ready for marriage, people around me were getting curious day by day to know when I was going to marry. Well, I didn’t know when I was going to marry. How could I know when I didn’t even know if I was ready for married life. I didn’t know if I do want to marry or not. All I wanted was to have the answers to my questions regarding marriage. All I wanted to understand was some concepts before getting into a marriage like why Marriage, whom to marry when to marry. Here are those questions that you should also understand before getting into married life.
Are you ready for marriage?
Getting married is a big commitment, so it’s normal to experience moments of doubt. The upside is that any hesitation you feel can inspire you to take an honest look at whether you’re ready for marriage, and that’s a good thing.
Generally, people thought that the best age for marriage is 26-30. But only you can decide what’s right for you, and people mature at different ages. So, check yourself if you are mature enough to step into a big change named marriage. Ask yourself are you comfortable with such a big commitment. Because if you’re hesitant to commit you are not mature enough.
Maturity usually includes knowing and trusting in yourself and the relationship, having a handle on your life goals, and being able and willing to make specific plans for a life with someone.
Why marriage?
The second thought I had in my mind regarding marriage is why marriage. Why tie the knot? Strong romantic feelings shouldn't be the only reason we marry someone. What will marriage add to your life as an individual?
If you have the same questions then you need to understand why marriage is one of the important aspects of the life of a human being as it’s the beginning- the beginning of a family which provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your partner and children.
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When a man and woman get married, the two become one. More than a physical union; marriage is also a spiritual and emotional union. Marriage is designed to mirror our Creator’s unconditional love for us. When a man and woman love one another unconditionally, contentment and joy follow. Marriage is a bond like no other. It gives you a life partner, a teammate, as you move through the challenges of life.
Whom to marry?
Once you realise that you’re ready for getting into the phase of married life, the question arise ‘to whom?’, who is perfect for me? What kind of person do I need to marry?
So, here are the answers, Don’t marry a stranger and hope you’ll become compatible over time. This is a big thing to take note of. I repeat, DO NOT MARRY A STRANGER. The best marriages start with a friendship. Be good friends. Start with a solid foundation of love, shared values, common interests, and trust. When you develop a friendship with each other, and romantic feelings naturally happen afterwards, your marriage is more likely to succeed.
While developing friendship, make sure you can honestly discuss money, children, in-laws, sex, careers, politics, and religion. These are the contentious subjects that can drive uncommunicative couples apart. Check if their intimacy needs match yours or are you both emotionally and sexually compatible. Marriages can work between joined-at-the-hip couples, and they can also work between highly independent couples. But it’s hard to sustain marriage between a clingy person and a standoffish one.
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What are the things you need to understand before getting into a marriage?
So, as it’s a good match to start with, now you need to understand the below-mentioned things before getting married. But before that, I would like to let you know that I’m excited to announce that we have a new release now. Click here for all kinds of discovering yourself books to heal your trauma and free your heart.
Your partner is not going to complete you
In one of my previous articles, I have mentioned how a relationship should not be used to be dependent on others for your happiness, sadness or any other emotional needs.
Relationships should work like a mirror that shows the reflection of your true self. Relationships should be there to share your completeness and not to complete you. You need to preserve a sense of yourself as an individual to enable the marriage or relationship to flourish. Don’t see your partner as the very answer to all of your problems, empty spaces in your life, or erring ways. It just burdens them.
Your significant other should be just that: the one who walks hand-in-hand with you throughout life. Together, you learn. Together, you grow. Together, you seek the joys of life, overcome the sorrows, and move always towards truth.
You won’t always feel “in love.”
Marriage is not always a walk in the park. There will be times when even the most wonderful, humble, and loving man will not seem to agree with you. There will rise arguments and you may feel like you’re not aligned and you’re not in love. These times will throw you for a loop and make you feel lost, lonely, and confused.
In general, the healthiest marriages have respectful and honest communication without game-playing, passive-aggressiveness, personal attacks, or power trips. So, be ready to handle these situations.
From there, it’s about knowing how to come together and communicate as a couple. People are very quick to respond and react, but what you need to do is stop, be present and listen.
You and your partner will inevitably change a lot over time.
Remember, we tend to marry at a young age. At this age, you and your partner going to change a lot during your lifetime together. Your thinking patterns, your priorities, your habits everything is going to change with time.
And these changes don’t just end in your 20’s. How you adapt to those changes together will tell how successful your marriage will be.
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