You are not obligated to do anything.
I want to be a palm reader, an astrologer. But before that I want to be a writer. I don’t know if I will earn a great money through it or not but my heart says that I’ll get more success and happiness doing this.
I don’t need to become someone else to be amazing, I am already amazing. I don’t need to have thousands of fans telling me how amazing I am, because I only need just one: myself. And I have myself, that’s enough.
I’m a defaulter M.E. like most people of 90s born (I read somewhere about this that Indian 90s kid do B.E. and then MBA by default) lol. So I’m one of them.
I have uncountable people in my life who told me to get a high paid corporate job, or to prepare for administrative services or to start my own small scale industry (These are the only three things our young people generally doing here). I know a major population of young generation can relate to me. And mostly of you have already been started doing any of these three things.
You know why? Because your adversary has more power to convince you to become a cheap copy of something else than you have to convince yourself to become who you truly are despite external influences.
Because it has already set up in your mind that being authentic means you have to fight a hard battle. The external factors are always trying to manipulate your mind by making you feel shame for who you are, what makes you fall in the trap that in order to be successful in life, you should never try to be yourselves, but a cheap replica of the stereotype of successful woman and man imposed by the society in which you live.
Before you read on, I would say that everybody needs to their own research. My posts are just the starting point. I do not expect you to believe me or my content. I do expect you to research and try to put the pieces together. I want you to discover it for yourself. And for that I can recommend you all kinds of ‘discovering yourself books' to heal your trauma and free your heart.
But successful in what? Successful being someone you’re not? Can you succeed not being your true self?
If for you being successful means to become an exact copy of someone else then go ahead and keep following someone else’s rules.
But follow your heart’s rule if being successful for you means being true to yourself. Your heart will tell you exactly what to do, those are the rules that will make you truly successful. Be whatever you want to be and do all the things you came here to do. Be authentic and fearless of what others will think of you.
Why are you so incapable of doing what you want to?
You have tried so much to become the person you should become in order to be accepted by others, that you have forgotten your own identity, and so you don’t even know who you really are. You act, you think, you speak, you dress, you eat, and you behave as the rest, lacking originality. You are so concerned about fitting in this society that you have decided to become someone else, leaving your true self aside.
And that’s the reason that most of the population behave in the same manner. You have been programmed like a computer to follow rules. Its been induced in your mind that you must act, think in a certain way and pretend to be what you are not to be accepted by others. You are incapable of doing what you really want is because you have this wrong belief in your mind that being successful means being what the society tells you to be.
How to live a authentic fearless life?
And here I have no rules. Actually there are no rules at all to be yourself. You already are what you are. But in order to be the grandest or the best version of yourself, you need some rules.
Know who you are
Once you know who you are, what your weakness or your strength is only then you will know what changes you need to be what you actually want and then you will be able to change it. 4 rules to understand yourself.
Accept and Love yourself as you are
If you accept yourself and love yourself as you are, you will be free to be whoever you wanted to be regardless if you are accepted by others or not.
Create yourself a life you want
Be committed of creating and living a life you love. Though you may not feel 100% comfortable initially, you have to push yourselves.
Make your move
Don’t sit on the side-lines and hope that someone else will bring you the opportunity you desire, instead be bold and make your move. Whatever “it” is — the job, the guy, the travel experience. Take risk to hear ‘no’.
Don’t put yourself down
You are amazing, remember that. There is no one like you. There may be someone who is smarter, younger or thinner than you but you owe nothing to them, there is nothing to take stress for. Get this truth; you are a whole package. These are not attributes that truly define you.
Be open to have a partner
As I said you don’t need anyone to make you whole, so you should be okay being your own. You should not be looking for a saviour, a benefactor or a boyfriend/girlfriend. But you should be open to meet a person who understands you, accepts you, respects you, respects themselves and is looking in the same direction as you are.
Don’t play the victim.
People will do things to let you down and even screw you over — such is life. What you shouldn’t do is re-live that scenario a million times over. You must know you are in full and total control of how you react to a situation.
In order to be the best version of yourself, you should be original. You can only be truly successful being your true self; otherwise you will be successful being a copy. There is a difference between wanting to do what someone else has done and wanting to become that person, you can share the same goal but that doesn’t mean you have to become that person in order to achieve it, you can achieve anything you want just being yourself, so stop trying to become someone else, and start being yourself. 6 ways to discover your true self.
Have dare to go for what you want. Don’t hold on to someone else’s idea of what should you do. Be Fearlessly Authentic.
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