Today we will discuss in this post how to be emotionally stable. Emotions are a complicated matter. It can cause lots of damage when you are emotionally unstable. Emotions flow like waves in you, changing every moment. Sometimes low, high, calming and sometimes like a tsunami.
The instability in your emotions can cause you to say or do the things you don’t want to do. It can cause arguments that can lead to some big fight. And so emotional stability is a skill that you require to prevent mental or physical damage. One thing to note here is that we are not going to teach you to control your Emotions. We never do that. Controlling emotions is not good advice and so we teach you here to look for the emotions that show you the real you. See also How to get rid of Emotions? There are many temporary tricks you can use to get your emotions stable like Take a hot bath Have a workout Eat healthily A good quality sleep Go for a walk Fuck your phone off Dive into a hobby Distract yourself Listen to music that you love Talk to your friends And so on….
But as I mentioned Emotions are like waves in the ocean, that can go for a while but come back again after some time. Emotions can’t be control permanently either so you left with one option only i.e. to learn How to be emotionally stable permanently. See also How to Master Your Emotions? Let’s start with the very first thing you need to do to be stable emotionally. 1. Know Your Emotions The worst thing you can do to get emotional stability is by suppressing the emotions. Blocking out your Emotions will do not fruitful to you but will prolong the pain as suppressed feelings get settled in the deep roots of your body and mind and come back to the surface in the most painful way. So allow yourself to understand your Emotions. Feel your Emotions and express the way you feel. The only way out is getting through it.
Look at your emotions and try to find out the reason why you are feeling this or that way. Try to figure out the root cause thoughts behind that emotion. Know the feeling behind the emotions, how are feeling good or bad about that. Do it by writing. Write down what are you feeling. Write down what thought is causing the emotions. Do this every time you feel an emotion and you will see that you are understanding your Emotions and thus it is becoming easy for you to get rid of the cause for that. See also How negative emotions are helpful? 2. Live in the Moment of Now Have you ever feel the warmth and sensation of a hot cup of tea? Nothing is better at that moment. Ever feel the drops of water on your body while having a shower? No comparison of the moment.
This is what living in the moment is called. This is also called mindfulness living when you focus your attention on the moment of now instead of thinking about the past and future. It involves becoming more conscious and attentive to your surroundings and thus helps you to enjoy the present without judgement. It is a kind of meditation that does not require you to sit in quite a place and focus on breathing. But a mindful meditation requires you to focus on your daily chores with more attention as mentioned in the example of shower and tea. You can do it at any time. Try this by: Notice the feeling and sensation you have while watching tv or listening to a song. Notice the taste of the food you eat. Observe your steps while walking into a garden or a road. And so on. Living in the moment of now helps reduce stress as Buddha said, “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you’re at peace you are living in the present.”
3. Know Yourself
If you want to be emotionally stable and stay calm in even the worst of situations, you have to be aware of who you are. The more you know your self the more you become secure. The more you secure the less you will take things personally.
Once you know who you truly are it becomes easy for you to deal with whatever you go through or whatever comes your way.
You need to know that you are strong enough to get through any adversity and any emotion or feeling is there to make you aware of yourself.
See How Anger helps know your true self?
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