Sometimes, ohhh !!! Sorry. Not sometimes, most often or I say all the time people think that being serious means being earnest, caring, responsible and hardworking. Are you one of them? Indeed. You find little to laugh about. You find it difficult to let yourself go and enjoy what you’re doing it who you’re with.
You take things so serious that you can waste your life over a little negative emotion, a negative comment from someone you don’t even know can ruin your entire day, an argument with your spouse can make you upset for a month, a little amount of money you spent buying those colourful designs that didn’t work out as you expected can make you angry for weeks. Wait. What? Are you that serious, writing a mail can make you serious? Or the coffee is not tasty today, and you are angry now. You forget to wear that tie in your neck for office today and got to scolded by boss and you are serious from now, never forget that tie. Lol. I think you are not serious, you are funny.
Well it’s true that you must deal with people, situations and things that may unpleasant, painful, contradictory, horrendous, exasperating, even evil but there’s always the other side of that experience. You won’t be in it forever, although it may seem like it’s lasting far too long at the time.
“People tend the take everything too seriously. Especially themselves. Yep. And that’s probably what makes them scared and hurt so much of the time. Life is too serious to take that seriously.” - Tom Robbins.
Taking things too seriously can cause unnecessary stress and worry over things that aren’t worth the effort. By learning about how bitterly seriousness can affect your life, you can stop being so serious and spend more time enjoying life.
How seriousness affects you?
Seriousness happens when you see everything as evidence of your abilities, values, ethics. When in doubt, question if you’re trying to prove yourself. Everyone has responsibilities and goals to achieve. There are probably countless things you must do and so many people depending on you. Seriousness should be there as per the weight of the situation. But an overemphasis on Seriousness is harmful not only for you but for those too around you.
Seriousness can narrower your understanding
Seriousness can cause you think in only in one direction. It makes you feel low on your worth, energy and time. When you are too serious about a particular thing you tend to forget other important things that need your attention too. Whilst you are busy distressing about everything you need to sort out, you miss out on enjoying the little things that matter. You miss out on the moments of significance that can make you happy and fulfilled in life. You miss out connecting with people on a deeper level.
You can probably see this in your own life. You are changing but you are too busy stressing about everything to notice or enjoy the process.
Get out of your own head. All that worry is worth your sanity. Try to stop taking everything so seriously and witness the difference that makes in your life. Go for whatever you have always wanted, but make sure to have fun in the process.
A serious attitude makes you difficult to connect with others
You are likely to misunderstand other people’s reaction if you are too serious about everything. When you stop taking everything so seriously, you make more profound connections that can have a positive impact on your life. A gentle personality is not an indication that you are irresponsible.
“The one serious conviction that a man should have is that nothing is to be taken too seriously.” – Samuel Butler
The problem with taking yourself too seriously is that you choose to look for approval — the fear of rejection prevent you from living your best lives. You allow people to become your judges. Fear of ridicule makes us overthink everything. The need for worthiness — pleasing, performing, and perfecting consumes us.
When you wrongly convince yourself that the world is a stage, you become an actor who must perform to please. That mindset can make the rest of your life miserable. Living our lives as an endless performance is exhausting — we are always playing a part.
Seriousness doesn’t allow you to accept imperfections
Often people who take things too seriously are perfectionists and can’t tolerate their imperfections and vulnerabilities. With such serious attitude, you we start worrying and overly concerned with every potential “what if?” scenario. Stress and worry is not a responsible way to deal with life’s challenges.
Remember, while things are nowhere near perfect, the sun still rise and fall every day. The sky isn’t falling. It isn’t. The evolution and transformation of everything around you will still continue when you are no more around to witness it.
Being serious makes you look fool
Yay, yay, I know, I know. What have I said? Being serious means I’m doing something important, isn’t it? Nah, bro, being serious doesn’t make you look important but a fool.
“A fool is someone who pretends to be serious all the time to show his significance.”
You get serious when you got trap in traffic jam. It makes you angry when you’re having slow internet connection. You are not able to decide what career to choose. You got upset going late for a meeting. You think you’re serious. How ridiculous, that your mind can be disturbed by little of these insignificant things.
Seriousness can make you lose the thing that matter the most
Time and time again when researchers have tried to figure out what makes people happy they have come to the same conclusion: personal relationships make the biggest difference.
But serious people are again serious about something else. I’m not saying to ignore other important aspects of your life. Build and improve your career, but don’t make your career your life. They two are not the same. By all means, plan your finances but don’t about every penny you spend on a cup of tea. Spend time with family, Friends and colleagues without worrying too much about what they think about you. The truth is nobody is thinking about you or judging you as much as you are judging yourself. Spending more time at home or with friends will probably have a negative impact on the balance of your bank account. But consider the fact that wealth is not correlated with happiness. In fact, once you have enough money to satisfy your basic needs, money makes very little difference in your overall well-being.
When you look back on your life, you won’t reflect on the time you spent at work; you will remember family dinners, great vacations, romantic dinners, and your wedding. Prioritize people over your career.
"Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive.” - Elbert Hubbard
Seriousness can suffocate your soul
Though, with today’s advancement in science and technology we have created a life that is easier to live, yet we ended up becoming slaves of it.
The biggest reason for today’s stressed life is seriousness. You have been programmed to become serious as soon as you become adult. You are forced to kill your inner child within you and ending up suffocating your soul. You’re so much caught up in the worries of tomorrow that you have no time to be here and now.
One you awaken spiritually and deeply realize that time is an illusion and present is not a part of time, the present is eternity. You naturally start living in this moment because you understand you can’t be elsewhere. Break the belief that you have to be serious if you have responsibilities. It’s a limited belief that stopping you from enjoying your life to the fullest.
Reconnect with your inner child by doing what you are passionate about. Remember, everything is temporary and can be dramatically changed in a blink of eye.
Every thing is constantly changing, in fact that seems to be the only thing that’s 100% consistent, and with the exception of your actions and your actions alone, you don’t control any of it. The things you’re fretting over right now, causing you all kinds of unnecessary grief, because of some life changing event that you never saw coming, might not matter one bit 5 minutes from now.
Someone you love might stop loving you.
Your home could be swept away by some force of nature so powerful it displaces people by the thousands.
Your heart could stop beating and your lungs stop breathing… just like that.
You could also get the best news of your life.
You just never know.
Everything is temporary. The only thing that you need to carry back is the amount of love you shared with the world.
How not to be serious all the time?
Being a little crazy is a good thing, it means you’re human.
It’s the trying to contain and hide the crazy, so you can keep up appearances, that causes the real madness.
“Anyone who takes himself too seriously always runs the risk of looking ridiculous; anyone who can consistently laugh at himself does not” - Vaclav Havel
Stop Being Dead Serious about Life by Sadhguru – YouTube
Things can seem like a big deal from your little plot of existence. Everything happening in your life can come off as monumental. That can stress you out. When life becomes very serious, you stop living.
Use simple questions to keep things in perspective. When you feel intense seriousness start to bubble up inside, ask yourself the following questions:
Is this worth getting upset over?
Is this really so important right now?
Is the situation really that bad beyond repair?
Is this my problem at all?
This can help you calm down, relax and focus on overcoming the obstacle or find a solution quickly and moving on.
If you’re having trouble with being too serious all the time and want to chill out and enjoy life more, but you’re not sure how, try doing more of the following…
– Move more. Get your heart rate up and your sweat on.
– Eat healthier and drink more water
– Get more rest
– Mediate
– Don’t watch the news
– Watch and read funny stuff
– Surround yourself with funny and positive people
– Spend more time doing what you love
– Spend more time helping other people
– Practice acceptance and resist nothing
– Shop the new release of self discovery books to make significant transform in your lives
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