Death is certain. A very happening thing, a must. But nobody wants to talk about death. Everyone wants to know about death but no one is interested in understanding death.
In order to understand death, let's read a short story
"Once an old man was sitting on the beach and was watching carefully something in the water, suddenly he saw a frog coming out of the sea and turned into a beautiful woman. He saw that the woman went to two military brothers who were discussing a particular issue sitting at the seashore and told one of the brothers that she loves him very much.
The soldier was also very happy to hear this. After a few conversations, that lady sent him to get some water. Now the other soldier brother and that woman remained there. The woman got an opportunity and said to the other brother that she loves him but could not speak because of the fear of the elder brother.
Now when the elder brother returned with the water, the younger started beating him. And both of those brothers got piled up while fighting with each other.
That old man sitting there was watching all this. He saw the woman going from there, the old man decided to follow her. Next, he saw that a buffalo herd was leaving, and that woman too joined the herd as a buffalo.
The herd entered into a dungeon where that old man also sat hiding in a corner. As soon as nightfall, that buffalo (which was turned from a lady) took the form of a snake and made all the buffalo standing there its prey.
The snake came out from there killing all the buffaloes, while the old man was still behind him. Stepping out, the snake reached the banks of a river and transformed into an old man. Since the old man was watching all this, now seeing a form similar to his own, he went ahead and asked him.
He told him how he has been following him since yesterday and has observed every killing he has done and now out of curiosity he has come to know who was he and why he was doing this. The old man replied, “I am death, and of those people, whom you saw dying, the time of death had come and I am just fulfilling my responsibilities.”
The purpose of telling this story was to make you understand that death is certain and it comes at the right time for the right person. And we know that. We all know that death is certain. Right?
Yeah, we know death is the final destination but do we understand death?
Ever seen someone dying? What did you feel? What were the emotions you con at that time?
You will say “it was a devastating experience. It left you in great pain and if the person was young and had no reason to die, died, it felt like an apocalypse.”
Yes, it is heartbreaking to see a person you love is now not available. All the promises, the future has vanished in a blink of an eye. Nothing can be more traumatic than seeing the extinction of a loved one.
There comes only a single feeling by seeing the dead body of a person who was close to us that why did this happen, only a single wish of bringing them back into life.
Ever heard someone saying that they want to die? What did you feel? What was your first reaction?
"Oh please, don't talk that way."
"Are you serious?"
"You didn't mean that."
"Please don't leave."
These are some common reactions everyone can have.
"There is very little sadness with my death, even though all of my villages seem to be there. We do not mourn deaths because we know that the spirits are eternal. It returns in human form again if its work is not finished." - Elizabeth from 'Only love is real' by Brian Weiss
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Before proceeding let me ask you some questions...
Why we celebrate birth but mourn death?
Why we accept birth but reject death?
Why we accept one thing and reject another?
Why we can't accept a person choosing death?
This is because of the society we have created which is not okay with death. The society we made because we don't want to die.
No matter what the circumstances a person in, you cannot imagine him wanting to die. But there are situations when death is preferable over life. I know, there are many examples of that, if you think you will know that there are reasons to die.
But you decline the truth, you don't accept it when someone chooses to die.
What we need to understand about Death?
Even if we do not know anything about death, we know that death is certain. Even though everything in the world is under our control, even today we are defeated by death. Even if we do not have fear of anyone in the world, fear of death is always in our hearts, whether it is our own or someone's we love.
We know already that the one who has taken birth has to leave the earth one day. Though we don't know when or how it is known that he or she has to depart. Everyone has to die one day.
The thing to understand here is that if we are so sure about death, then why it is not easy for us to face it. Then why did we get thrilled on hearing the news of someone's death?
I know that there is no "right" or "wrong" when it comes to your feelings about losing a loved one. But here are something you need to understand.
1. First thing you need to understand that everyone dies.
2. That everyone dies at the right time. Death never comes sooner or later.
3. That death is not just a physical process.
4. That it’s the only body that comes rated soul remains there with you always.
5. That birth and death are just arrival and departure from one form to another.
What you can do for a dying person?
A person who is dying know that you will not accept his death, he knows that if he tells you that he wants to die, you will try to keep them alive and will never allow them to die peacefully.
So he decides to wait until the room is empty before dying. He will ask everyone to go for food, for rest or will say that he is fine and as the last person leaves he dies.
If you want to gift something to a dying person, let them die in peace, in comfort with dignity, not thinking that they must hang on continue to suffer or worry about you at this crucial time of theirs.
“Individuals facing imminent death have had more time to process the idea of death and dying, and therefore, maybe more accepting of the inevitability of death. They also have a very good idea about how they are going to die, which may bring some sense of peace or acceptance.”
Because death may be a failure to Doctors and a disaster to relatives but to the soul it is relief.
Peace
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